If we were to make the farthest most end of the positive spectrum of emotions JOY the polar opposite at the negative end of the spectrum would be fear.  

From these emotions stem hurt, frustration, aggravation, annoyance, irritation, hate, disgust, guilt, self-righteousness, anxiety, worry, terror, panic, nervousness, insecurity, grief, sadness, loneliness, shame, hopelessness, bitterness, despair, pity, self-pity, and apathy.

 Emotions = Energy in Motion.  Negative emotions are not bad emotions.  Negative emotions are energies that become destructive when turned inward where they break down the body, unbalance brain chemistry, drive destructive behavior.

People understand this.  Which is why most people are taught destructive emotions are bad emotions and they shouldn’t feel them.  Which is very confusing because people do feel them.

Because people are taught destructive emotions are bad and are not taught what to do with them when they feel them people learn to suppress their ‘bad’ emotions, which pushes these emotions into the subconscious; that is to a level where they can be consciously ignored or denied even though they are still present in the energy fields of the body.   

 Emotions are how your body talks to you.  We use the term body as a kind of shorthand for the subconscious self or, if you prefer, the emotional levels of the human self.  When you ignore your body’s feelings, it thinks you don’t care about it.   When your body thinks you don’t care about it your body gets depressed. When your body gets depressed its brain chemicals change which affects your health, your hormones, your moods, how you sleep, what you eat, how you process what you eat, what you do, what you feel and what you don’t feel and what and how you think.  . 

When you use medicine to try to get your brain chemicals back to normal without paying attention to the feelings that are depressing your body, your body gets discouraged and begins to give up and shut down.       

It’s important to pay attention to your body’s feelings, which is why it is important to pay attention to your emotions.  Every emotion is a message from your body to YOU. 

Listeners guided into light level of self-hypnosis and Pamela talks to the Conscious and Subconscious Self about emotions: 

Pain is the body saying:  Ouch!  I hurt!”  Pain is your body is telling you to find out what’s wrong so you will do what your body needs you to do to help it fix itself.

Fear is the body saying:  Danger! Beware!”  Your body is warning you it perceives a threat and it wants to know from you what to do about that threat.    

Anger is the body saying:   Attack!”  Your body is informing you it feels a need to protect itself and you and it is asking you for permission to do that.           

Pain, fear and anger are powerful weapons your body uses for protecting itself and you. That’s good.  You need your body.  Your body needs to protect itself.  There are elements in the world that can harm your body and your body needs you to listen to it and help it protect itself from harm.

But sometimes your body makes mistakes.  You can’t blame it.  It doesn’t always know the best thing to do, you do.  That’s why your body depends on you to tell it what to do.

When someone threatens to hurt you stand up straight and look that person in the eye.  Say, “If you try to hurt me I will protect myself, even if I have to hurt you too.   Why do you want us to hurt each other?”  No one likes to get hurt and saying this is likely to get that person to leave you alone.  If it doesn’t, give yourself permission to protect yourself.

If you have to be taught how to protect yourself, give yourself a lesson in self-defense.  You can do this physically or mentally.  If you do it mentally, practice it in your mind over and over so your body learns how to do it automatically if someone attacks you physically.

If a person says something that hurts your feelings, say, “That hurt my feelings.  Did you mean to hurt my feelings?”  If the person says no, say, “Okay, then don’t say that again.”  If the person says yes or says nothing say, “If you want to hurt me, I must have hurt you.  How did I hurt you?”  If the person says you didn’t hurt them say, “Then you have no reason to hurt me.”  If the person says yes, you hurt them, say, “I apologize for hurting you.  That was not my intent.”

Later, when you are alone, think about the words that hurt your feelings.  If you think they aren’t true, tell yourself that.  Your body needs to you to tell it what you believe.  If you think the words that hurt your feelings are true tell yourself what you will do to improve yourself and do it.

When you are scared, say to yourself:  “My light protects me, guides me, and makes me strong and smart.”  Then ask yourself, “What is the best thing for me to do about what is scaring me?”  Your inner light will answer you.  Listen for the answer - it will help you.   

When you are sad, say to yourself, “I am sad.”  If you know why you are sad, talk to your self about it and help yourself to feel better.  Your body needs you to comfort it.

Screen of The Mind

Erased:  “Pain is bad.”  “Hurt is bad.” “Fear is bad.”  “Mad is bad.”  “Sad is bad.”  “Shame is bad.”

 Replaced With:  When I have pain I find out why and fix it.  When I am afraid I ask my light to help me.  My light protects me, guides me, and makes me strong and smart.  When I am attacked physically I know exactly what to do to protect myself.  My light makes me strong and smart.  When I am threatened I know exactly what to do to look strong, sound strong, and be strong.  My light makes me strong and smart.  When I am sad I help myself feel better.  When I am hurt I help myself feel better.  When I am mad I find out why so I know the best thing to do about it.  My light helps me do the best thing to do when I am mad.

Listeners guided out of  self-hypnosis.

Discussion on teaching children how to deal with hurt and anger.

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